Should You Have a Nesting Party, a Baby Shower, or Both?
15 Questions to Consider ↓
When you’re expecting a baby, everyone has an opinion about what kind of celebration or preparation you "should" have. But what do you actually want? A baby shower? A nesting party? Both? Neither?
This isn’t about what your mom or best friend wants to plan. It’s about how you want to be supported.
Take a few quiet minutes, read through these 15 statements, and notice how you feel as you go. Don’t overthink it—this isn’t a test. It’s an invitation to check in with yourself.
Take some time…
Read each of the 15 statements below and pause for a moment to check in with yourself.
Ask: Does this feel like me?
You don’t need to overthink it.
Notice your instinctive response.
For each one, mark:
Yes – feels like me
Kind of – somewhat true
No – not really me
You might want to jot your answers (Y, K, N) down on a sticky note or copy and paste these questions to the notes app on your phone.
At the end, you’ll get a feel for what kind of gathering might serve you best.
This is for you…Not your partner, not your mom, not your best friend.
Let this be a gentle gut check for what you need in this season.
I already have most of the baby gear I need.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I love the idea of a social, themed gathering.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I want this to be low-pressure and practical.
(Yes / Kind of / No)My loved ones are really excited to throw me a shower.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I’d feel supported if people helped me with baby prep tasks.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I want photos, decorations, and a little magic.
(Yes / Kind of / No)A small group of close, trusted people is all I really want involved.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I don’t have energy for a big, traditional event.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I'd feel more prepared if my space was ready, not just my registry.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I like the idea of doing both: one practical, one celebratory.
(Yes / Kind of / No)Support feels more real when people do things with me, not just for me.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I’d enjoy receiving gifts and celebrating with a crowd.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I don’t love being the center of attention.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I want connection—not a big “look at me” moment.
(Yes / Kind of / No)I’d rather have help preparing my home than receive more gifts.
(Yes / Kind of / No)
What Your Answers Might Be Telling You…
Use your answers to get a general sense of what type of gathering will serve you best. Here's how to reflect:
Count how many times you answered "Yes" to:
Questions 1–5, 7–9, 11, 13–15 → Nesting Party Support
Questions 2, 4, 6, 10, 12 → Baby Shower Energy
Now ask yourself…
Were most of your "Yes" answers in the Nesting Party list? → A Nesting Party Might Be Right for You.
Were most of your "Yes" answers in the Baby Shower list? → Go for the Baby Shower.
Was it pretty even—or is #10 a strong "Yes"? → You Might Thrive with Both.
There’s no wrong answer. Just clarity.
Closing Note
This is your invitation to pause and take inventory. The way you welcome your baby matters, and so does how you’re held in the process.
Let your support system support you, not just the idea of a baby.
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